Desapego pode sinalizar equilíbrio emocional
Abrir mão de coisas, pessoas e situações deixa vida mais leve
Muitas pessoas possuem uma característica que pode ser prejudicial para sua saúde mental e emocional, que é o apego - seja por coisas, ideias, pessoas ou situações. Isso acontece porque o afeto, quando excessivo, nos mantém reféns da vida, fazendo com que o dia a dia se torne pesado e sem alegria. Sendo assim, o ideal seria sempre estarmos preparados para aceitar possíveis e súbitas transformações em nosso cotidiano, como uma mudança de emprego ou de casa, a troca de um carro, o término de um relacionamento e até mesmo a morte de pessoas queridas. Sabemos que essas perdas podem gerar sofrimento, mas precisamos encontrar maneiras de encarar as decepções e continuar nossas vidas da melhor forma possível.
Embora pessoas mais sensíveis possuam mais dificuldades em se adaptar a esse tipo de situação - pois necessitam da atenção dos outros para realizarem suas tarefas - é preciso que esteja claro que a prática do desapego não vai torná-las frias e distantes, mas fornecerá condições para que sejam mais calmas e receptivas, podendo perceber as mudanças de modo mais compreensível.
Apego excessivo afeta saúde física e mental
De acordo com o médico, físico e praticante de Meditação, Enio Burgos, autor do livro "Medicina Interior - A medicina do coração e da mente" (Ed. Bodigaya), a compreensão sobre o funcionamento da mente e a transformação dos sentimentos negativos em sabedoria são as formas mais efetivas de praticar o desapego. O autor indica que pensamentos e sofrimentos gerados pelo apego excessivo afetam a saúde do corpo. Assim, precisamos transformar as emoções perturbadoras básicas (apego, raiva, indiferença, orgulho e inveja) em sabedoria e plenitude de vida.
Descrevendo a relação mente-corpo, a teoria de Enio mostra que nossos pensamentos e sentimentos têm papel fundamental no desenvolvimento das doenças e dificuldades que enfrentamos ao longo da vida. Segundo o autor, as pessoas com perfil apegado tendem a ter muita dificuldade em adaptar-se a novas situações de vida, sentindo essas mudanças como uma grande perda e gerando emoções desequilibradas e prejudiciais ao corpo e mente. O especialista cita que alternativas benéficas para reverter esse quadro são a meditação e o autoconhecimento, através da espiritualidade.
Relacionamentos amorosos e desapego
O grande mestre Osho, líder espiritual indiano, diz que nossa maior missão é deixar esse planeta mais amoroso. Mas aí surge uma dificuldade muito grande, que é perceber a diferença entre apego e amor. É bom lembrar que apesar dos dois sentimentos serem muito parecidos, o apego, no fundo, destrói o amor.
O apego causa todo tipo de sofrimento nas nossas vidas, pois trata-se de um falso amor e acaba se tornando uma limitação. Enquanto o amor é entrega, o apego é a possessividade. O amor deixa livre e o apego diz: "eu te possuo". E é por apego que existem guerras, crimes, etc. No que se refere a relações afetivas, o amor é a prontidão para se mergulhar no outro.
De um modo geral, podemos dizer que as pessoas desapegadas são tranquilas, estão sempre em harmonia, pois conhecem a sua verdadeira essência e sabem que a possibilidade de perder alguma posse ou se distanciar de alguém não vai mudar a sua verdadeira natureza. As pessoas apegadas podem apresentar diversos sintomas como ansiedade, fobia, depressão, ou seja, ou têm medo de perder ou perderam e não souberam lidar bem com a perda."
Devemos notar que ao dizermos: "esta é minha namorada" ou "este é meu namorado", estamos falando algo comum. Entretanto, é importante lembrar que a outra pessoa não é posse sua, mas sim alguém que convive com você, compartilhando momentos e situações. Ou seja, ela tem vontades e desejos que são dela e liberdade para agir do jeito que considerar melhor.
Formas de praticar o desapego
Para praticar o desapego, é importante recorrer a alguns exercícios mentais. Nós precisamos ter controle de nossa mente. Afinal, ela é parte do nosso corpo e por isso não podemos permitir que seja dominada pelo negativo. A mudança acontece continuamente em nossas vidas e precisamos estar preparados para isso, com o intuito de sofrer menos.
- Permita-se vivenciar os seus sentimentos e pensamentos e aceite-os exatamente da forma como eles se expressam em você, sabendo que tem a capacidade para regulá-los.
- Não deixe de sentir determinados sentimentos que se manifestam no seu corpo, nem tente evitar que determinados pensamentos surjam em sua mente.
- Tenha claro que não somos os nossos sentimentos nem pensamentos, por isso eles devem ser filtrados pela nossa consciência para que não julguemos que somos tudo o que sentimos ou pensamos.
- Quando a nossa mente produz pensamentos que são angustiantes para nós, num primeiro momento devemos apenas observá-los. Não precisamos acrescentar mais nada a esses pensamentos ou julgá-los, somente deixá-los vir à tona e passar por nossa mente.
- Ao invés de todo o processo de raciocínio destrutivo, você apenas observará o seu pensamento, sem juízos, e dirá a si mesmo: "Ah, estou tendo um pensamento que me alerta que algo pode estar errado comigo. Eu não sou este pensamento. Eu não vou segui-lo. Focarei nas coisas que tenho que fazer hoje".
- É importante permitir-se viver a sua experiência. Por exemplo, quando se sentir deprimido ou angustiado, tente perceber em que parte do seu corpo sente alterações físicas. É na zona da garganta? No peito? Na nuca? No estômago? Sinta e observe seu incômodo. Fique temporariamente com a sua dor, angústia ou ansiedade. Em seguida, aceite-a. Depois, oriente a sua atenção no sentido de aprender a lidar com os seus sentimentos e pensamentos, regulando-os, até que possam diminuir ou extinguir-se.
Ainda que todo este processo e explicação de aceitar e desapegar-se da sua dor emocional possa não resolver totalmente problemas como ansiedade, depressão e angústia, você perceberá que pode deixar de ficar sobrecarregado pelos seus sentimentos e pensamentos negativos. Aprenderá a deixar de ficar negativamente condicionado pelo padrão mental nocivo que criou ao longo dos anos. Isso permite que você crie um espaço em volta dos seus pensamentos e sentimentos, vivenciando-os sem que afetem a sua vida.
Outro grande benefício é que você deixa de usar grande parte da sua energia contra si mesmo ou tentando resistir ao fluxo natural da vida. Com isso, conseguirá ligar-se mais facilmente às pessoas significativas da sua vida, evolver-se com o mundo ao seu redor e ser funcional a partir da sua experiência interior dolorosa, ao invés de ter de esperar até que se sinta melhor.
Detachment may signal emotional balance
Many people have a feature that can be detrimental to your mental and emotional health, which is attachment - whether by things, ideas, people or situations. This is because the affection, when excessive, keeps us hostage to life, making the everyday becomes heavy and joyless. Thus, the ideal would always be prepared to accept possible and sudden changes in our daily life, such as a change of job or home, the exchange of a car, the end of a relationship and even death of loved ones. We know that these losses may cause suffering, but we need to find ways to face disappointments and continue our lives as best we can.Although more sensitive people have more difficulty adapting to this type of situation - because they need the attention of others to do their jobs - we need to be clear that the practice of detachment will not make them cold and distant, but provide conditions for that are more calm and receptive, and can realize the most comprehensible form changes.Excessive attachment affects physical and mental health
According to the doctor, physical and meditation practitioner, Enio Burgos, author of "Medicine Interior - The heart medicine and mind" (Ed. Bodigaya), the understanding of the workings of the mind and the transformation of negative feelings wisdom are the most effective ways to practice detachment. The author indicates that thoughts and suffering caused by excessive attachment affect the body's health. Thus, we need to transform the basic disturbing emotions (attachment, anger, indifference, pride and envy) Wisdom and fullness of life.Describing the mind-body relationship, Enio theory shows that our thoughts and feelings play a fundamental role in the development of diseases and difficulties we face throughout life. According to the author, people with attached profile tend to have a hard time adapting to new situations of life, feeling these changes as a great loss and generating unbalanced emotions and harmful to the body and mind. The expert mentions that beneficial alternatives to reverse this situation are meditation and self-knowledge, through spirituality.Loving relationships and detachment
The great master Osho, Indian spiritual leader, says that our greatest mission is to make this more loving planet. But there comes a great difficulty, which is to realize the difference between attachment and love. Remember that although the two are very similar feelings, attachment, deep down, destroys love.The attachment causes all kinds of suffering in our lives, because it is a false love and eventually becomes a limitation. While love is delivery, attachment is possessiveness. Love makes free and the attachment says "I own you." And it is attachment that there are wars, crimes, etc. With regard to emotional relationships, love is the readiness to dive into another.In general we can say that the detached people are quiet, are always in harmony, because they know their true essence and know that the possibility of losing some possession or distance someone will not change its true nature. The attached people may experience various symptoms such as anxiety, phobia, depression, that is, or are afraid of losing or have lost and not know how to deal well with the loss. "The attached people may experience various symptoms such as anxiety, phobia, depression, ie or are afraid of losing or have lost and not know how to deal well with the loss. "We should note that when we say: "This is my girlfriend" or "this is my boyfriend," we're talking about something common. However, it is important to remember that the other person is not your possession, but someone who lives with you, sharing moments and situations. That is, it has wants and desires that are hers and freedom to act the way they consider best.Ways to practice detachmentTo practice detachment, it is important to use some mental exercises. We need to control our mind. After all, it is part of our body and we can not allow it to be dominated by the negative. Change happens continuously in our lives and we must be prepared for it, in order to suffer less.Tips:
•Allow yourself to experience your feelings and thoughts and accept them exactly as they are expressed in you, knowing you have the ability to regulate them.
•Be sure to feel certain feelings that manifest in your body, or attempt to prevent certain thoughts arise in your mind.
•Be clear that we are not our feelings or thoughts, so they should be filtered by our consciousness so that we are not judge everything we feel or think.
•When our mind produces thoughts that are distressing to us, at first we just observe them. We need not add anything to these thoughts or try them, just let them come to light and go through our mind.
•Instead of the whole process of destructive thinking, you just observe your thoughts without judgment, and say to yourself, "Oh, I'm having a thought that alerts me that something may be wrong with me I'm not the thought I.. I will not follow you. I will focus on the things I have to do today. "
•It is important to allow yourself to live your experience. For example, when you feel depressed or anxious, try to understand what part of your body feels physical changes. It is in the area of the throat? Chest? Neck? In the stomach? Feel and notice his discomfort. Stay temporarily with their pain, distress or anxiety. Then accept it. Then, orient their attention towards learning to deal with their feelings and thoughts, regulating them, until they can decrease or cease to exist.
Although this process and explanation to accept and let go of your emotional pain can not fully resolve problems like anxiety, depression and anxiety, you will find that can help but be overwhelmed by their feelings and negative thoughts. Learn how to avoid being negatively conditioned by harmful mindset that created over the years. This allows you to create a space around their thoughts and feelings, experiencing them without affecting your life.Another major benefit is that you no longer use much of his energy against himself or trying to resist the natural flow of life. With it, you can easily connect more easily to the significant people in your life, evolve with the world around you and be functional from its painful inner experience, rather than having to wait until you feel better.
Detachment may signal emotional balance
Many people have a feature that can be detrimental to your mental and emotional health, which is attachment - whether by things, ideas, people or situations. This is because the affection, when excessive, keeps us hostage to life, making the everyday becomes heavy and joyless. Thus, the ideal would always be prepared to accept possible and sudden changes in our daily life, such as a change of job or home, the exchange of a car, the end of a relationship and even death of loved ones. We know that these losses may cause suffering, but we need to find ways to face disappointments and continue our lives as best we can.Although more sensitive people have more difficulty adapting to this type of situation - because they need the attention of others to do their jobs - we need to be clear that the practice of detachment will not make them cold and distant, but provide conditions for that are more calm and receptive, and can realize the most comprehensible form changes.Excessive attachment affects physical and mental health
According to the doctor, physical and meditation practitioner, Enio Burgos, author of "Medicine Interior - The heart medicine and mind" (Ed. Bodigaya), the understanding of the workings of the mind and the transformation of negative feelings wisdom are the most effective ways to practice detachment. The author indicates that thoughts and suffering caused by excessive attachment affect the body's health. Thus, we need to transform the basic disturbing emotions (attachment, anger, indifference, pride and envy) Wisdom and fullness of life.Describing the mind-body relationship, Enio theory shows that our thoughts and feelings play a fundamental role in the development of diseases and difficulties we face throughout life. According to the author, people with attached profile tend to have a hard time adapting to new situations of life, feeling these changes as a great loss and generating unbalanced emotions and harmful to the body and mind. The expert mentions that beneficial alternatives to reverse this situation are meditation and self-knowledge, through spirituality.Loving relationships and detachment
The great master Osho, Indian spiritual leader, says that our greatest mission is to make this more loving planet. But there comes a great difficulty, which is to realize the difference between attachment and love. Remember that although the two are very similar feelings, attachment, deep down, destroys love.The attachment causes all kinds of suffering in our lives, because it is a false love and eventually becomes a limitation. While love is delivery, attachment is possessiveness. Love makes free and the attachment says "I own you." And it is attachment that there are wars, crimes, etc. With regard to emotional relationships, love is the readiness to dive into another.In general we can say that the detached people are quiet, are always in harmony, because they know their true essence and know that the possibility of losing some possession or distance someone will not change its true nature. The attached people may experience various symptoms such as anxiety, phobia, depression, that is, or are afraid of losing or have lost and not know how to deal well with the loss. "The attached people may experience various symptoms such as anxiety, phobia, depression, ie or are afraid of losing or have lost and not know how to deal well with the loss. "We should note that when we say: "This is my girlfriend" or "this is my boyfriend," we're talking about something common. However, it is important to remember that the other person is not your possession, but someone who lives with you, sharing moments and situations. That is, it has wants and desires that are hers and freedom to act the way they consider best.Ways to practice detachmentTo practice detachment, it is important to use some mental exercises. We need to control our mind. After all, it is part of our body and we can not allow it to be dominated by the negative. Change happens continuously in our lives and we must be prepared for it, in order to suffer less.Tips:
•Allow yourself to experience your feelings and thoughts and accept them exactly as they are expressed in you, knowing you have the ability to regulate them.
•Be sure to feel certain feelings that manifest in your body, or attempt to prevent certain thoughts arise in your mind.
•Be clear that we are not our feelings or thoughts, so they should be filtered by our consciousness so that we are not judge everything we feel or think.
•When our mind produces thoughts that are distressing to us, at first we just observe them. We need not add anything to these thoughts or try them, just let them come to light and go through our mind.
•Instead of the whole process of destructive thinking, you just observe your thoughts without judgment, and say to yourself, "Oh, I'm having a thought that alerts me that something may be wrong with me I'm not the thought I.. I will not follow you. I will focus on the things I have to do today. "
•It is important to allow yourself to live your experience. For example, when you feel depressed or anxious, try to understand what part of your body feels physical changes. It is in the area of the throat? Chest? Neck? In the stomach? Feel and notice his discomfort. Stay temporarily with their pain, distress or anxiety. Then accept it. Then, orient their attention towards learning to deal with their feelings and thoughts, regulating them, until they can decrease or cease to exist.
Although this process and explanation to accept and let go of your emotional pain can not fully resolve problems like anxiety, depression and anxiety, you will find that can help but be overwhelmed by their feelings and negative thoughts. Learn how to avoid being negatively conditioned by harmful mindset that created over the years. This allows you to create a space around their thoughts and feelings, experiencing them without affecting your life.Another major benefit is that you no longer use much of his energy against himself or trying to resist the natural flow of life. With it, you can easily connect more easily to the significant people in your life, evolve with the world around you and be functional from its painful inner experience, rather than having to wait until you feel better.
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